Happiness is all about perspective and outlook for the future.
A UCLA study revealed that two distinct groups of people who experienced life changing events, one bad (the death of a loved one) and one good (winning a huge sum of money in the lottery), returned to their relative measure of happiness within one year of the event.
TRUTH ABOUT HAPPINESS: IT’S BUILT-IN!
The grumpy folks who won the lottery and were set for life were still grumpy. And the happy folks, even after suffering a great loss were relatively happy after one year.
Hard to believe perhaps, but it makes sense. And during my 40-something years on the planet, I have come across some models of centering, contemplation, recovery and joy that I feel it would be helpful to share. I am not planning a program or any type of revelation, merely an inner dialogue and revelation about some of my greatest comforts and simplest observations and lessons.
Reading and Writing
Books have always formed a huge part of my life. TV never held the sway that the library on a Saturday afternoon did. New books! And writing has come and gone throughout my education and career as a invaluable skill. Sometimes it’s poetry sometimes PowerPoint. Sometimes I am writing songs and other times I am merely sketching architectures for web sites or a new idea I am trying to get across.
- Drawing (or visualizing and transmitting ideas)
- Playing Music (getting into a deeper mode of transmission)
- Playing Tennis (removing the thinker)
- Being Dad (me, mine and my family)
- Being Still (pausing between thoughts)
- Being Happy (pausing to recognize the happiness, both alone and with others)
- Being a Connector (I want you to succeed, and if I can help or connect you with someone or something)
- Being a Seeker (can we truly imagine the grandness of god?)
- Giving Everything Away (I want you to have this)
Books about Thinking or Happiness or the Brain
- Time and the Art of Living, Robert Grudin
- The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn’t, Sonja Lyubomirsky
- A General Theory of Love, Thomas Lewis, MD.
- This Is Your Brain on Music: The Science of a Human Obsession, Daniel J. Levitin
- Beyond the Brain: Birth, Death, and Transendence in Psychotherapy , Stanislov Grof
- Happy at Last: The Thinking Person’s Guide to Finding Joy, Richard O’Connor, MSW. PhD
Books of Great Value in My Life
- Leaves of Grass: The “Death-Bed” Edition, Walt Whitman
- The Razor’s Edge, Summerset Maugham
- Siddhartha (Modern Library), Herman Hesse
- The Dharma Bums, Jack Kerouac
- Tropic of Cancer, Henry Miller
- The I Ching, or, Book of Changes (Bollingen Series XIX) (Bollingin Series)
- The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance, Timothy Gallway
- One Hundred Years of Solitude (P.S.), Gabriel Garcia Marquez
- Aunt Julia and the Scriptwriter: A Novel, Mario Vargas Llosa
- Betrayed by Rita Hayworth (Latin American Literature), Manuel Puig
- A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, James Joyce
- E. E. Cummings: Complete Poems, 1904-1962 (Liveright Classics), e.e. cummings
- Dune, Frank Herbert
- Foundation, Isaac Asimov
- Rendezvous with Rama, Author C. Clark
- Down and Out in Paris and London, George Orwell
- The Catcher in the Rye, J. D. Sallinger
- The Diary of Anais Nin Volume 1 1931-1934: Vol. 1 (1931-1934), Anais Nin
- Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas: A Savage Journey to the Heart of the American Dream, Hunter S. Thompson
- Letters to a Young Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke
- Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair: Dual-Language Edition, Pablo Neruda
- Digital Mantras: The Language of Abstract and Virtual Worlds, Steven Holtzman
- The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable, Patrick Lincioni
- Making Things Happen: Mastering Project Management (Theory in Practice) and The Myths of Innovation, Scott Berkun
That’s enough for now, it’s time for the resting part of the equation,
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